Je ne suis pas une femme de ménage, je suis une mère de famille.

Nara Smith, 24-year-old influencer and mother of four, has spoken out against being labeled a “traditional wife” after facing criticism online. In a recent episode of her podcast Call Her Daddy, she rejected the label, calling it “disturbing.” Known for her cooking videos, Smith explained why she doesn’t see herself fitting into that role. She and her husband, Lucky Blue Smith, have been married since 2020 and share parenting responsibilities with their four children: Rumble Honey, Slim Easy, Whimsy Lou, and Fawnie Golden. Smith described how she was used as a “poster child” for the “trad wife” movement, which she found bizarre. During the podcast, she picked up her phone to look up the definition of the term on Google. The definition outlined a woman who accepts or promotes a traditional marital model, prioritizing domestic duties, childcare, and supporting her husband’s role as the primary provider. After reading the definition, Smith stated she didn’t fit that description at all. She went through each point one by one, challenging the assumptions behind it. She argued that being a “stay-at-home mom” isn’t her priority. “I’m often away from Los Angeles, traveling a lot,” she said. While she loves cooking and admits it’s part of her passion, especially because of her autoimmune disease, she emphasized that it’s more of a hobby than a necessity. “It’s my passion, my hobby. It’s not something I have to do.” When it came to household responsibilities, Smith clarified that she and her husband split tasks evenly. “If he works, I take care of the kids. If I work, he does.” This balance became even more crucial after their daughter Fawnie was diagnosed with cancer, requiring additional support from family. She also noted that while she enjoys cooking, it’s not the sole responsibility of the household. “He does the dishes. I don’t touch them. There’s no chance you’ll ever see me washing or rinsing dishes.” Regarding the idea that her husband is the main breadwinner, Smith countered that both of them earn money for the family. “That doesn’t make sense. I work too.” She pointed out that her husband lacks culinary skills, adding, “He burns everything except for a decent stir-fry.” The discussion sparked new debates on social media, with some users accusing her of playing the role of a “traditional wife.” Others noticed differences in her tone during the podcast compared to her usual content. Some questioned whether she was intentionally performing for the audience. One user suggested she should simply admit she was acting. Another commented on her friendship with Hannah Neeleman, a well-known influencer known for her lifestyle centered around motherhood and homesteading. Smith had visited Neeleman’s farm, raising questions about whether her image aligned with the expectations of a “traditional wife.” As the conversation continues, it highlights broader discussions about gender roles, career aspirations, and the pressures placed on women in public life. Whether or not Smith intended to challenge these norms, her comments have reignited conversations about identity, expectation, and the evolving nature of family dynamics in modern society.