Tjaša M. Kos: Zato se po poletju v moji praksi poveča število razočaranih žensk

Therapist Tjaša M. Kos reports that after summer, her practice sees a noticeable increase in disheartened women who feel their relationships have fallen apart. Many of these clients had entered the season with high hopes, expecting time off to bring them closer together. Instead, they found themselves facing conflicts, misunderstandings, and emotional distance. According to Kos, this pattern has become more common over recent years, especially among couples who rely heavily on routine during the work year and find their relationship tested during the slower pace of vacation. The phenomenon appears to be linked to the shift in dynamics that occurs when daily obligations fade away. During the working months, many couples are consumed by jobs, family responsibilities, and other commitments, leaving little room for meaningful connection. When the summer break arrives, the absence of schedules and distractions often exposes underlying issues that were previously masked by the busyness of everyday life. For some, this period becomes a mirror reflecting the state of their relationship rather than a chance for rejuvenation. Kos describes how many of her clients initially believe their problems stem from trivial matters, such as arguments over travel routes or restaurant choices. However, deeper exploration usually reveals unmet emotional needs and long-standing feelings of neglect. One couple she worked with, Petra and Marko, expressed frustration over how quickly their bond deteriorated once they were together all day. They realized that their communication had suffered due to the lack of quality time throughout the year. Many women report feeling hurt not just by the conflict itself, but by the sense that their partner isn't truly listening. This disconnect can lead to resentment and a feeling of isolation within the relationship. Kos emphasizes that while summer does not cause relationship crises, it often brings hidden tensions to light. The absence of external pressures forces couples to confront the reality of their partnership, which might otherwise remain unexamined. According to Kos, healthy relationships require consistent attention and nurturing, much like a garden that needs regular care. A single annual effort during vacation is insufficient to sustain a lasting bond. She notes that resilience in partnerships is built through small, everyday interactions, the way couples greet each other in the morning, how they listen to one another, and how they resolve disagreements. These moments collectively shape the strength of a relationship. Kos recalls a couple who had been married for over thirty years and believed their marriage was beyond repair. During therapy sessions, both partners were asked to share what they missed most about each other. The man mentioned longing for his wife's smile and embrace, while she expressed a desire for affection without having to ask for it. This moment of vulnerability shifted the dynamic from anger to sorrow, highlighting the emotional depth of their unspoken needs. As the summer fades into autumn, many couples face the challenge of rebuilding trust and reconnecting. Some seek professional help to address the emotional gaps revealed during the break, while others choose to work through their issues independently. Regardless of the path taken, the experience underscores the importance of open communication and mutual understanding in maintaining a resilient relationship.